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If you’ve wondered what to do when you’ve lost the motivation to prioritize and practice self-care, this post is for you!

Finding the drive, energy, and time to practice self-care seems impossible when you’re overwhelmed and overworked. Just the thought of adding one more thing to your to-do list makes you want to cry. In theory you understand why it’s important. IRL, however, you have no space for self-care. Not one bit even if it’s a small bit of care.

Your next best step is to break self-care down. Wrapping yourself in a soft blanket to scheduling your annual doctors’ appointments to receiving a facial and massage provide a wide range of activities that constitute of self-care. It’s an overwhelming list that makes you feel selfish or overloaded from the pressure to take better care of yourself.

To help make things a little easier, think about what feels reasonable given your season of life and available energy. When you think about how you want to feel and factor in your season of life, you’ll find your self-care sweet spot.

Once you have an idea of what is reasonable for you, use the following three strategies to regain your motivation to act in your self-care sweet spot.

Connect with What’s Important to You

Now that you’ve identified your self-care sweet spot, it’s time to dig a little deeper. Namely, what’s your why? Why is it important to YOU that you take better care of yourself? I can come up with lots of possible reasons, but your answers matter the most.

Are you mentally, physically, or emotionally exhausted and overwhelmed? Maybe you or someone you know has had a health scare which concerns you. Or, your pace and productivity don’t align with the life you imagined.

Whatever your why, ask yourself “why” two more times—until you get to your feelings. For example, you might want more energy so that you can play with your kids. Why is this important? Because they keep asking you to play with them. Why is this important? “Because I would feel guilty, sad, and regretful if I missed having fun with them at this age.”

Here’s another example: you might want to eat healthier foods. Why? Everyone says it’s important. Why is this important? “Because I’m a smart person and I would feel dumb if I developed a health issue which could have been prevented with consistently eating healthier foods.”

Connecting to your deep-down why provides motivation. Post your why at home, in the car, at work, anywhere that will serve as a reminder and motivator.

Flip Your Mindset

When humans consider making a behavior change—big or small—they focus on what they’ll have to give up. Flip your mindset so that you focus on what you’ll gain. For example, if you want to walk 5 out of 7 days a week, you’ll have to do it during your lunch break. But you use that time to pay bills and catch up on household paperwork.

On the flipside, the physical energy you gain from walking will prevent your afternoon slump when your brain struggles to focus. Focus on what you’ll gain from regular self-care.

Believe Self-Care Is the Opposite of Self-Indulgence

As a high achieving woman, you want to take care of All. The. Things. You don’t want to be perceived as incapable. As a result, you put your head down and plow through everything you expect of yourself or that you’ve said yes to. I get it.

Ironically, you become selfish if you DON’T take care of yourself. The lack of care negatively impacts how you show up for people in ways that you’ve implicitly or explicitly agreed to. You compromise your capacity.

While my life experience bears this out, here’s what I know that’s even more important: you deserve self-care as much as any other human on the planet. I can think of no, zero, nada reasons why you aren’t worthy. You are deserving of self-care. It’s true.

Bonus: Lead by Example

If you’re ambivalent about what you deserve, you will not stick with self-care. While this is serious, here’s a bonus reason to embrace self-care. If you don’t take better care of yourself, you lose the opportunity to lead your children (and others you care about) in practicing self-care. You can lead by example in your corner of the world, so more children and adults are happy and healthy.

Embrace your worth and the leadership opportunity to practice self-care.

Make a Commitment

You will regain the motivation to practice self-care when you connect it to your core values, flip your mindset to focus on what you’ll gain instead of lose from practicing self-care, and wholeheartedly believe you deserve to take better care of yourself.

Consider making this contract with yourself:

I, ______________, commit to these self-care practices because I’m worth it!

[List 3-5 self-care practices that match how you want to feel, your season in life, and your energy level.]

Taking better care of myself aligns with my core values. I will focus on what I will gain, instead of lose, from practicing self-care. When I say that I am valuable by spending energy and time on myself regularly, I give others around me permission to value themselves too. I’m looking forward to how self-care will help me show up better in my important roles. Self-care is not self-indulgent. Rather, it increases my capacity to show up for people in ways that I’ve implicitly or explicitly agreed to. Self-care energizes me, excites me, and nourishes me.

Signature ______________________ Date____________

If you’d like support and accountability while you take better care of yourself, book a Rebalance Your Wellbeing clarity call so we can talk about what would be the most helpful to you.

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I’m Karen Clark Salinas, and it’s my mission to help women live their full purpose (work + family) without sacrificing wellbeing. I want to be the coach I wish I’d had when I was a working mom. Someone to help me get unstuck and live my life more intentionally. Marriage, motherhood, chronic illness, divorce, remarriage, and caring for aging loved ones contribute significantly to my story. I know for sure that, with my support, you can pursue your professional dreams while raising a happy and healthy family.

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