My mom was amazed by the number of questions I asked as a young child. She’s mentioned this more than once, so I guess I must have been one of those kids whose follow up to an answer was Why? Why? and more Why?
We all arrive in this world as curious beings. In fact, our brains are wired so that we explore and learn as part of our survival. Over time, social conventions such as school and etiquette limit our curiosity.
Do you remember your younger self as curious? What were you curious about the most? Where does curiosity show up in your life now?
The other day, my husband gently asked if I have enough books. I smiled and recommitted to limiting my book buying until I read a lot of what I have. Right now, I’m asking questions like:
- How can I work with my body instead of against it to make my desired changes?
- How can I better listen to my inner voice?
- What are best practices for working the Instant Pot into our weekly food prep?
Create Possibility through Questions
If you’d like to design a life that you love, you will likely need to re-engage with your curiosity and tend to it so that it serves your passions. Brian Grazer writes, “no matter how much battering your curiosity has taken, it’s standing by, ready to be awakened” in his book A curious mind: The secret to a bigger life.
A re-awakened curiosity can help you design a life you love. First, it opens you to possibility. Without a sense of possibility, it’s extremely difficult to create change and realize dreams. Second, curiosity causes you to ask questions: What is it like? What could it be like? What will it take to move me forward? Asking questions and really listening to the answers can disrupt your own point of view … which leads to change.
As I switch my career to serving as a wellpreneur, my curiosity runs 24/7! I read, listen to, and discuss topics that I never anticipated (one reason why I have a lot of books). The scope of my practice and possible ways to serve others grows daily. I am happily astounded by the questions my curiosity asks!
Manage Fear and Foster Confidence
It’s so easy for us to accept limiting beliefs and make decisions based on them. Using your curiosity to explore and question these thoughts encourages you to understand yourself and others better. “Curiosity presumes that there might be something new out there. Curiosity presumes that there might be something outside our own experience out there. Curiosity allows the possibility that the way we’re doing it now isn’t the only way, or even the best way,” writes Grazer.
Developing and maintaining your curiosity muscle yields two additional benefits: curiosity can help you manage your fears and foster confidence. Asking questions can provide a 360° view of your fears and illuminate places to disrupt your point of view. Curiosity causes you to look for examples of others who live life without your fear.
If you consistently ask questions about something you want in your life so that it changes from a “no, I can’t have that” to “yes, I can,” your self-confidence grows exponentially. You take charge of your choices and move closer to a life that you love.
Curiosity + Experiments
What in your life might benefit from some curiosity to determine if there is a better way? If you want to test some of the answers to your questions, consider running an experiment. I know for sure that my curiosity leads the way as I design a life I love.